Dear highschool girls lost in the shuffle, bullied, ignored, lost.......

Dear high school girls lost in the shuffle,

    I know exactly what it's like. To feel like no one cares who you are, why your there, or even acknowledges that you exist. To feel like part of the unpopular group, struggling to fit in & find a place in one of your high schools ACTUAL cliques. Feeling forced to do things your unsure of & battling yourself to decide what you feel you need to do. I've been that quiet girl hiding in a corner unsure of what to say & when to say it.  I know what its like to have assignments coming at you in every direction, people dragging you every which way, the pressures to fit in, and much more, and your left feeling like your drowning. I have been that girl sitting all alone, I've been the girl who only seemed to bond with teachers, I have been the girl everyone laughed at for being a "goodie-two shoes" ( so what I like to wear BOTH my shoes, JOKING!). I have been bullied and honestly feel I have been a victim to bullying since grade 2 and it still continues. I've been the girl who would wake-up in the morning, wish it was still early and I could go back to bed. Then I'd look at my clock and see it was indeed time to get up & get ready to go to "school", and would think of excuses not to go to school that day. School was a miserable place for me to go to & I would often wish " let this this be the last time this happens" or " please just let me have ONE GOOD DAY!".

Yes, I eventually did confide in someone I trusted. To be told, " it's part of life it will stop soon", or " I'm not going to intervene because I might make it worse." . Great, so your going to do nothing? not even offer advice? alright thanks!.....not. I will admit it was hard, and I felt so alone since once I convinced myself it was time to tell someone and get advice to make it all end to be told things like that.

The good news? I eventually did find someone I was comfortable talking to that DID offer me advice & comfort. Any guesses who it ended up being? My guidance councillor! Who knew?! Thinking back, I should have just started there. But truth is I was afraid, confused, and silently hoping it would suddenly stop sometime soon. But, after just 10 minutes (  totally unplanned)talking to my guidance councillor, I started to feel hope again that things would get better. I talked with my guidance councillor more over the next few weeks and things started to work out & school wasn't such a nightmare anymore. I'm so thankful I had her around to help me!

Things I feel helped me:
Joining in on clubs/groups/organizations within your school/part of your school or age group
Finding someone who would listen and offer some type of help
Not responding to most of the bullying when it happens
BE YOU, forget what everyone else is telling you about what YOU should be. you control you, not them!